How do I talk about my kids

“Kid” kind of works either way, although you may need to preface it with “adult” (adult son, adult daughter) if the person you’re speaking to doesn’t know their age. “Child” technically correct when talking about adults but much less common and therefore likely more confusing. I’d just take it as a compliment that people don’t think you look old enough to have adult kids! 😂

Instead of saying like "i have 2 kids/children" you could say "i have 2 grown children". You could also say like "adult son" if you need to but often people don't need to say that and can just assume from context. Eg "my son just got engaged! I'm so happy for him!" No one would think your son is a child in that example.

It's usually understood through context. There's no specific word. It's pretty normal for people to say something like, "My kids are <so and so age> and they..." if they think there will be some confusion. You could say the similar, "My kids are adults and they..."

I usually just hear "kids", though if you want to be specific, you can always say "adult children" or "adult kids."

Simply preface with "adult" as in "my adult son", "my adult children" and so on. Once you've established they are adults with your conversation partner, you can drop the preface and use "son", "children", and so on.

Some people will say, “I have two kids that are grown and gone now.” Meaning that they have two kids that are grown ups and have moved out and are on their own now.

Context mostly. “My son got married last year.” “I’m driving my daughter to college this weekend.” “The house feels different since my kids moved out.” Things like that communicate that they’re adults without outright saying it. Otherwise you can just say your kids’ ages or that they’re adults if it matters for the conversation.

Try saying “grown children” “my children/kids are grown ups)

I keep hearing people here mention that "adult children" is an unusual phrase, but I suspect that's because they're younger; I'm 55, and I hear this phrase literally on a weekly basis. This is very much the standard way in the US to refer to kids who are over 21 and/or no longer live with you.

“Kids” or “children” are the only terms I would really use or expect someone else to use (aside from “son” or “daughter”). If you’re older, it will be the obvious assumption that they are adults. If you’re not, they’re probably young enough that people would find “kid” fitting. I’m 23, but definitely would be thought of as a kid by probably most people. “Kid” is commonly used to refer to young adults (especially young men, in my experience). And when referring to a person’s offspring, it’s a normal term to use. People wouldn’t really think twice about it.

I say adult children, adult kids, young adult son, daughter in college, teenage son, etc. I say "I have four kids. Their ages are 16 to 27." "I have four kids, the youngest is 16."

Grown children. Adult children. My children, who are adults. I have two of them, and I use all of these regularly.

If you say "my child" then people are more likely to imagine a young child. Saying "son" or "daughter" will make it less likely for people to assume they're young. Other than "son" or "daughter", there is no other word to indicate that they're adults.